The Burned Out Assistant

The Burned Out Assistant is about coming back online after burnout. I write for people who are tired of optimizing and ready to listen to themselves again.

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Welcome.

I'm glad you're here.

Although, if you've found your way here, I'm guessing life is probably doing that thing where it quietly falls apart before anyone else notices.

Maybe you've burned out.

Maybe you were laid off.

Maybe your relationship ended.

Maybe you've spent years building a career that suddenly doesn't fit anymore.


Or maybe nothing dramatic happened at all.

You just woke up one day and thought, I don't think I want this shit anymore. From personal experience, I think that's even harder. At least when something explodes, everyone agrees your life changed. When it's internal, you spend a lot of time wondering if you're making it all up.

I've been there more times than I'd like to admit. For years I thought every uncomfortable feeling meant I needed to fix myself. Read another self help book. Find the perfect system. Push a little harder. Because why can't I just be like everyone else?


Turns out, sometimes nothing is broken. Sometimes you just outgrew the life you built.


And that's a very different problem.

What you'll find here

I write about burnout, yes. But really, I write about what comes after burnout.

The awkward middle where you're trying to participate in life again instead of just surviving it. The strange season where you're questioning your work, your relationships, your identity, or the future you've been chasing because someone told you it was the right one.

The part where everyone else wants you to have a five-year plan and you're just trying to figure out what actually matters to you now.

I don't have much interest in productivity hacks anymore. I don't think every difficult season needs to become an inspiring comeback story. And I definitely don't think healing is linear.

Most meaningful change is incredibly boring while it's happening. You notice one thing or you get curious about another. You set one boundary and you make one different decision. Then, months later, you look around and realize your life feels different. You didn't reinvent your life, but you stepped into the next version of you.

That's the kind of work I'm interested in.

If you're in transition

This is where I spend most of my time these days. Working with people who are somewhere in between.

Not who they once were and not quite who they're becoming.

It's an uncomfortable place to stand. Everyone wants you to hurry through it. Capitalism DEMANDS it.


But I don't.

I think there's a lot to learn there.

I don't have all the answers, and I don't think anyone who claims they do is being entirely honest. What I can do is help you slow things down enough to separate what's actually happening from all the noise surrounding it.


Sometimes clarity isn't about finding the answer.

Sometimes it's just about finally asking the right question.

Stay awhile


If this sounds familiar, I'd love to have you join my newsletter. Every week I write about burnout, transitions, boundaries, curiosity, gardens, work, life, and whatever else I'm trying to make sense of that week.


No pretending I've got it all figured out.


No five-step framework that's going to change your life by Tuesday. Just honest conversations for people who find themselves somewhere between the life they had and the one they're trying to build.